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42 Life Lessons I Know at 42 That I Wish I Knew Sooner
by Mark Manson
💡 TLDW (Too Long; Didn't Watch)
42 life lessons learned the hard way
by Mark Manson
42 life lessons learned the hard way
A collection of hard-earned wisdom covering relationships, self-discipline, emotional intelligence, and personal growth. These lessons emphasize the importance of facing fears, setting boundaries, and taking responsibility for your own life.
Recognize that fear indicates importance - the more afraid you are of something, the more likely it's exactly what you need to do
Fear occurs in proportion to importance. Use fear as a compass rather than avoiding it.
Show up and do the hard thing your future self will thank you for
Self-discipline is the ultimate form of self-care, not bubble baths or treating yourself.
Start saying no to things that don't serve you
Boundaries only piss off people who benefited from you having none. If someone gets angry when you say no, that tells you everything you need to know.
Absorb hits without turning into an asshole
Strength is not being tough. It's choosing not to lash out when you have every right to be angry.
Identify fear as the root of procrastination
Most time management problems are really fear management problems. You're not procrastinating because you don't know what to do.
Choose silence and pause before reacting
Emotional intelligence often looks like silence - the pause before reacting, choosing not to win the argument.
Surround yourself with people who tell you uncomfortable truths
A true friend will risk your anger to help your future self. People who only tell you what you want to hear are not your friends.
Speak to yourself like you would to your best friend
If you speak to your friends the way you speak to yourself in your head, you probably wouldn't have any friends left.
Make decisions without filtering through what others will think
Freedom starts when you stop needing to be liked. As long as your decisions are filtered through 'but what will they think?', you're not really free.
Keep moving even when it sucks
Motivation is a feeling and feelings come and go. The people who actually changed their lives are the ones who learned to keep moving even when it sucked.
Accept that no one is coming to save you
Adulthood starts when you stop waiting to be saved. The moment you accept that you are the only one responsible for your life is the moment that your life begins.